Standing up for what i believe in

It’s been a bit since I wrote and honestly it’s not because I haven’t had anything to say. I started 2 entries and i was just to emotional to continue writing. So those topics will have to wait until I feel ready. 

What I do want to write about it something that has been a daily topic for me. People being shitty, and I really have no way else to write that. 

I praise being kind to others and being what you want to see in the world but even I have my limits. Especially when it comes to me seeing flat out someone being a terrible human being. 

I’m sick of it, and I don’t want to be quiet when I see it. Now one would argue, why don’t you mind your own business Jaimie? Well I could however seeing people you care about get hurt sucks. It really does and I just could not stomach it anymore. 

An example I made a comment about a female publicly, I stated the truth. I wrote what others are saying but are not putting it out there. So yeah maybe I should not have inserted my 2 cents but you know what, she needs to know what she is doing is wrong. Oh the lovely world of social media, it’s a blessing and also a curse. She then went on to private message me for over 11 hours straight about how dare I say these things, I better take it down and that mutual friends can’t believe me out of all people would say something about it. 

I am known for being honest and a really good friend. But what I also want to be known as someone that steps up when others won’t say anything. Maybe it’s not my place but you know what, if someone doesn’t speak up, who is? Maybe saying something will make the person see “hey I must be doing something wrong and maybe I’ll stop”. One would hope, insert eye roll right?

Am I claiming to be perfect? And that I haven’t made mistakes? Absolutely not! I have made so many mistakes and I have hurt people in my life but you know what, I learned my lesson. I took those lessons to become the person I am today. I did some really terrible things to some people and you know, I tried to make amends with those people because what I did was wrong and that’s not who I want to be. 

I wish I could just say this a one time incident but honestly it’s not. I have a friend going through a nasty divorce after a short marriage and why? Because she decided she was no longer in love or if she ever loved my friend. One of my closest guy friends is battling his ex in court because all he wants to do is spend equal time with his young daughters before they grow up and no longer want to be around daddy. You know how he is being repaid for that? Less time and monitored visits… I’m not kidding… How about my other guy friend that had a son with a woman that already had 2 daughters, they are divorced and he still does everything for the girls because the mother won’t even cook dinner. He gives the mother anything she wants to keep the peace so he has access to his child and has he ability to be there for the girls. I used to question it but now I see, if he gives her any push back, she will make his life harder. 

We live in a world where things like this happen everyday and nothing is said because we are supposed to mind our own business. Well I think it’s a terrible thing to do, and yes there is a limit on getting involved. But if you can speak up and say something if you have the chance, I think it should be done.

I’m not saying let’s go around getting involved in others legal battles. But what I think we need to do is pay attention to how some people are being treated. 

I don’t condone this behavior and I will not just brush it off as it’s ok because it’s not my business. I can’t live in a world like this. 

Where am I going with this? Honestly I don’t know. I’m just so sick of people being terrible human beings especially female because they get away with it. I know me a female, saying this about other females. I now know why so many of my friends choose to be a single. 

I don’t know when this sense of entitlement started for woman to just walk all over men but it’s disgusting. I’m ashamed that woman out there give me a bad name because they are this way. I think the boxer Ronda rousey said it best, don’t be a do nothing bitch. 

I’m not saying every woman needs to have a career but I am saying that a good amount woman today aren’t doing anything and thinking they deserve things. We live in a generation of internet models where they are being called influencers for holding a product. What kind of a role model is that?

Where are the woman that actually do things? The driven ones? The ones that work for something and aren’t expecting life to be handed on a shinny platter? I am really starting to loose faith because it’s becoming more of a rare thing of a woman bringing to the table what they expect the man to. And I’m not saying stay at home moms because being a mom and taking that role is hands down one of the hardest I’ve seen. Devoting yourself to your children is a selfless job. I’m talking about the woman that are bouncing between jobs, that expect a man to pay for everything, that truly bring nothing other than laying on their backs or standing next to a car with a bathing suit. 

We need to do better… We have to be better people, our future depends on it… 

Xoxo